I'm happy to say, the guy who said those hurtful words did right by me and asked a friend of his, who is dating a trans-male about it. He completely learned how what he said was wrong. His translation of what he was accidentally saying was.
"I'm going to start dating you and force you not to get a sex change for my own personal needs." He apologized many times for being ignorant and hurtful. He also said:
"but i know myself, that's why i'm stopping myself now." (I thought that was very mature of him)
I explained very clearly to him that if he was looking for a women, he should look elsewhere. I also said if he was scared of being called gay, the same thing went because he WOULD be a guy dating a guy. Once he finally understood that I'm a man. PERIOD, he came to the decision that it would be best not to date me and he said it in a mature way too. I told him that was fine and that I appreciated that he took the time to learn more about me before making a choice. I gave him the example of me possibly getting a penis some day (I may or may not get bottom surgery) and told him that was a very possible reality. He then chose that he wouldn't be sexually attracted to me anymore and while that can hurt, I'm FAR happier with him learning about it, understanding it, and making his choice on real knowledge and being honest. If he wouldn't be comfortable with me, I'm glad he figured that out now for both him and myself. We have agreed to stay friends.
WOW! (I also just want to clarify that this dude wanted (and still does) a relationship with me and has known I'm trans-male since I came out. He just randomly started acting like if we got together, I'd make him look bad if he referred to me as male. I wasn't trying to make him gay or whatever lol I realize how the convo looks when I look back at it. so yeah, just clarifying that he knew and said he was fine with it)
Now ex-friend- "Because like you're gonna be a guy with a vagina, but if we started dating, and i said "yeah, i'm dating that guy." everyone's response would be, "you're gay" which i'm not, but i guess that's what i'd have to deal with"
Me- "If that's how you feel about it, you don't have to worry about dating me at all, ass wipe!! No one else would have to even know what junk I had. Plus, I AM a guy so if you did date me, you would technically be gay.(Or just like the idea of a guy with a vagina) You'd just have a boyfriend with a pussy. What YOU'D have to deal with?! ha! wow. Poor you, having to deal with a label that's not even an insult for having someone you claim to care about. Selfish cunt!"
If you can't see the insult in his words, I'll spell it out. "i guess that's what i'd have to deal with."="I guess I can put up with the burden that comes with being with you."
|So, I finally got Myles to the vet and he’s not in the best of shape, though the major issues are further down the line in his life. His heart murmur is still low because he’s so young but he has a light bacterial and fungal outbreak over his skin due to allergies I was unaware of. I bought a medicated shampoo while I was there so that is under control. The vet also told me contrary to popular belief, the surgery to fix his knee caps isn’t something to do later but something to prevent things like arthritis, which he is already showing signs of. He’s only 3 and a half. She doesn’t think he will live as long as most Maltese but I’d rather he have a short, comfortable life than a long, unhealthy one. Therefore, I’ve decided to get him his knee surgery as soon as I can. It is between $2000 and $2500 plus the money for him post-op wheelchair. As some of you know, I’m trying to get into the doTERRA business but for that I have to spend money to make money so handing over that much money right now is impossible. I’ve decided to ask for your help. If any of you would like to donate to help Myles get his surgery, please note me. Whether it 5 cents or a dollar, anything is a help.|
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